I have a few ideas:
- encourage them to think of others first
- love them unconditionally
- love their father unconditionally
- love with actions, not just words
Last week I spent some time with someone who has, after many years, realized that her partner doesn’t love her. She is wondering if he ever did.
This is when I wish I could pave the way for my children: pick the perfect mate, the right friends, the safe road… but maybe that isn’t what God has for them at all. And I’m back to square one. Sometimes I wake up in a cold sweat, afraid one of them is going to pour out her (or his) life on someone who doesn’t know how to love anyone but him(or her)self.
And then what? Then I love them as they crawl back (hopefully) to self-respect and the love of One greater than we are?
A friend’s mother once told me that she prayed for her children that they would recognize Love when they saw it. So maybe my four ideas aren’t so small after all: maybe as my children learn how TO LOVE, they will know when someone else is actively loving them (not just saying it).